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      <image:title>BLOG - We just pulled off what treatment centers couldn’t ✈️ - Mine and Colin’s vision board from the retreat. We created ours *live* on the big screen for our clients to watch while working on their vision boards. Included: some of our fave entrepreneurs, vibes from our future-state visualizations, and, of course, our girl and future Not Therapy bff Paris. FYI Colin is the Kim K in our relationship. He’s a star</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - What Paris Hilton’s SICAA Bill ️ Means for Troubled Teen Industry - Make it stand out</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - What Paris Hilton’s SICAA Bill ️ Means for Troubled Teen Industry - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.nottherapy.me/blog/troubled-teen-trailblazers-talk-transforming-treatment</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG -  Troubled Teen Trailblazers Talk Transforming Treatment - Shout out to Tony from Telos for leading and moderating our panel on the overlooked needs of alumni students at the Young Adult Transition Association (YATA) conference last week! Special shoutout to Justin, our former troubled teen counterpart who sat on the panel with us. We had the best time with you guys at the conference, and thank you to everyone who supported and attended our panel!</image:title>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-28</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - How to NOT get gooned...and save your parents $100k - Solve for: the quality/state of my mental health Variables: the sub-categories of what I need to do &amp; focus on to change or maintain the state of my mental health Coefficients: how much energy I put into my specific {goals + habits + follow through} for a given variable. These change based on the current phase of my life and the states of other variables If I want to live a life I love (at least 75% of the time), then I need to figure out the variables (what I can do) in each of these areas that are most impactful for me personally. Note: this isn’t mathematically correct  We’d have to break this down into a system of partial differential equations to reflect how the variables change with respect to each other (humble brag) because how else would I get to use my engineering training?? Just go with me on this.</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - How to NOT get gooned...and save your parents $100k - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Solving my mental health equation breakdown has taken years of intentional exploration and refinement. It’s still ongoing.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>BLOG - How to NOT get gooned...and save your parents $100k - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>BLOG - The girl  that NO ONE wants to talk about - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.nottherapy.me/blog/the-number-one-parenting-red-flag</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-28</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - The number one parenting red flag  - Make it stand out</image:title>
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    <loc>https://www.nottherapy.me/blog/buckle-up-for-my-biggest-overshare-to-date</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - Buckle up  for my biggest overshare to date -  INSTAGRAM  all my residential treatment girlies flew in for my 25th bday &gt;&gt;</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - Buckle up  for my biggest overshare to date -  REALITY  &lt;&lt; me in 2022 at 27 - a year into building my first company (a mental health company no less) and in one of my most unhealthy relationships to date</image:title>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-28</lastmod>
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      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-29</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - When going back to treatment isn't depressing ☀️ - “ Pacific Quest had the pleasure of hosting Hayley and Colin for a two-day program visit. During their time with us, they connected deeply with both our staff and students, leading multiple group sessions for our adolescent and young adult participants. Their insightful feedback was particularly invaluable, offering guidance on how we can enhance our support for students both during and after treatment, ensuring a smooth and successful transition back to everyday life after the transformative experience of our program. We are incredibly grateful for their visit and for helping us continue to drive best practices for our students. ” -Ryan Walton, Director of Outreach, PQ</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ATTN PARENTS! Plz let us mess up more. - Make it stand out</image:title>
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    <loc>https://www.nottherapy.me/blog/i-hate-all-my-kids-friends</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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      <image:loc>https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/655b937dcd413a2773604750/c1bb9e1d-76f9-4cd7-847f-b50f5fcc6905/keeping+casual.png</image:loc>
      <image:title>BLOG - why we struggle to keep it casual  - Earlier this month, Colin and I spoke with a group of students who were quickly approaching their graduation from high school and/or treatment. Shout out to MSPA for letting the students be in the room by themselves so they could ask Colin and me anything they wanted to  If you’ve been to treatment, you know just how big of a deal it is for staff to leave you in a room unsupervised  It gave us the space to be honest about our experiences since leaving treatment ourselves. Towards the end of our hour with these students, someone asked our favorite question:</image:title>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - BLOG POST TAKEOVER featuring current troubled teen - Make it stand out</image:title>
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    <loc>https://www.nottherapy.me/blog/my-kid-still-hates-me-for-sending-them-to-treatment-</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - My kid still hates me for sending them to treatment  - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <loc>https://www.nottherapy.me/blog/in-our-troubled-teen-villain-era-</loc>
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    <lastmod>2025-01-30</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - In our troubled teen VILLAIN ERA  - Make it stand out</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - In our troubled teen VILLAIN ERA  - The first half of the first page of Phase One Requirements from my residential treatment center. This was called the “Orientation Phase”. From what I remember, you were on this phase for anywhere from 30 to 90 days, had the fewest privileges and freedoms of any phase, and had to wear a red polo shirt with your school or workout uniform 24/7 besides when you were sleeping. Your parents could visit you on campus after 30 days, and you had supervised calls with your parents once per week.</image:title>
      <image:caption>The first half of the first page of Phase One Requirements from my residential treatment center. This was called the “Orientation Phase”. From what I remember, you were on this phase for anywhere from 30 to 90 days, had the fewest privileges and freedoms of any phase, and had to wear a red polo shirt with your school or workout uniform 24/7 besides when you were sleeping. Your parents could visit you on campus after 30 days, and you had supervised calls with your parents once per week.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>BLOG - In our troubled teen VILLAIN ERA  - The first half of the first page of Phase Four Requirements from my residential treatment center. This was called the “Transition Phase.” I remember girls being on this phase anywhere from 4 to 8 months, and you would get your “graduation date” a few months into this phase. You had the most privileges and freedoms of any phase; you only had to wear a white polo shirt with your uniform during school, but you could wear your own (approved) clothes outside of that. (Phase Two had to wear blue polos, and you could wear your own pants/shorts with the blue polo on the weekends. Phase Three had to wear green polos, and you could wear your own clothes on the weekends). You had a flip phone for a few hours a week, could talk to a few approved friends via calls and letters, and had unsupervised time on your home visits.</image:title>
      <image:caption>The first half of the first page of Phase Four Requirements from my residential treatment center. This was called the “Transition Phase.” I remember girls being on this phase anywhere from 4 to 8 months, and you would get your “graduation date” a few months into this phase. You had the most privileges and freedoms of any phase; you only had to wear a white polo shirt with your uniform during school, but you could wear your own (approved) clothes outside of that. (Phase Two had to wear blue polos, and you could wear your own pants/shorts with the blue polo on the weekends. Phase Three had to wear green polos, and you could wear your own clothes on the weekends). You had a flip phone for a few hours a week, could talk to a few approved friends via calls and letters, and had unsupervised time on your home visits.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2024-05-07</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ICYMI…we finally said thank you to our parents - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ICYMI…we finally said thank you to our parents - They trusted us to take care of ourselves after all that time in treatment. At the same time, they held us accountable for taking responsibility for the consequences of our mistakes or self-sabotage. Read more about how they gave us a baseline of trust in the last post in our “transition starter pack” series. This is a text with my mom after the workshop</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ICYMI…we finally said thank you to our parents - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ICYMI…we finally said thank you to our parents - Make it stand out</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ICYMI…we finally said thank you to our parents - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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      <image:title>BLOG - ICYMI…we finally said thank you to our parents - Make it stand out</image:title>
      <image:caption>Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.</image:caption>
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    <lastmod>2024-04-15</lastmod>
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      <image:title>BLOG - So…I found my old home contract from treatment  - Both my parents and I had to agree to and sign every page.</image:title>
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      <image:title>BLOG - So…I found my old home contract from treatment  - While parts of my relapse prevention plan were helpful in that it required reflection and insight into what patterns of thinking and behavior I should look out for that might indicate backsliding, the entire document is ALL PREVENTATIVE.</image:title>
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